I have come to realize something about myself when I judge women on how they look. Having figured this out it puts into perspective why I have been so harsh towards women on certain things and not on others. Certainly it is why I absolute abhor poorly chosen sunglasses. What is this realization? I am very picky about what accessories women choose to wear.
When it comes to one's clothing, we all have days where we just don't necessarily have the options we want for that day (my mother and her expansive closet withstanding). I know I have had those days where I just had not gotten around to doing laundry and so my clothing options were rather limited. And one cannot go out in public without a shirt and pants. So I can understand a woman choosing a top or pair of pants one day that are not what I would have chosen for them.
This understanding even extends to shoes. I currently have my casual shoes sitting in my entry hall waiting to be taken to a cobbler as the soles are coming loose. Because of this I only have sneakers and my shoes I reserve for slacks or days I want to take it up a notch. Typically, if I think the nicer shoes might be too much I dress it down with the sneakers. So I can understand a woman making a bad choice in footwear.
But sunglasses? I don't care how sunny of a day it is, you don't have to wear sunglasses like pants. This is especially true in Vancouver where the sun is typically not out even when people are wearing their sunglasses. When you put on your sunglasses you are choosing to wear them. That means you are choosing to look how you do with those sunglasses. So if you look bad in them it says to me you made that conscious choice to look like that. Thus I judge much more harshly on that choice.
Same goes for other accessories such as earrings, any form of piercing, tattoos, etc. This helps explain why I react why I do to nose and lip piercing; you choose to look like that voluntarily and I really don't go for that sort of thing.
Now admittedly I have never had a conversation with a women with a nose piercing where I was saying to myself, "this person is amazing, but I can't ask her out because I simply cannot stand her nose piercing". But when I walk down the street or sit on the bus and I am judging women on how they look, those that choose to wear accessories that don't look good definitely get judged more harshly than others.
2 comments:
My unwritten masters thesis was on unspoken body language using patches and other forms of expression such as the ones that you are referring to. Patches really tells you it was in the 60's! There are SO MANY choices in sunglasses that a lot of people get overwhelmed by the vast possibilities and haven't ever really studied their face shape to know what or why something looks good on them. Earrings are the same deal. Some just won't work and it is worth it to figure it out at say Nordstroms where you can get good advice and try on lots of choices or a friend that has a good eye and can tell you the truth and help you see WHY it works or not. Most women just stumble along and get the fashion no matter what it looks like. Piercings are just attention getters and an automatic sorter if you put off people you are saying take it or leave it I am different and I want you to instantly know something about me as with tatoos. I am always interested by these makeovers where these people become converted to classically dressed women after they learn some fashion basics and get more confidence in their looks and drop the attention getting devices they were using in the past. Psychology 101! MOM
Hey, Whitney once thought of getting a nose stud piercing. I guess that would have put you OFF!!! LOL Did you ever think while wearing the sunglasses they wanted to protect the only two eyes they had from harmful uv rays coming through the cloud barrier? Must you look good to protect your eyes? I feel if someone is wearing piercings and tattoos that are obvious and out there they want to be noticed and making a statement. So I stare (Whitney doesn't like that) but that's what they wanted so I'm giving it to them. But what do I know, I wear a uniform and navy blue looks good in big red trucks anyway ;)
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